Why I Don't Make a "Good" Friend

Like I have mentioned before, I am not a very social person. When someone asks me that how many friends I have, I always find it troubling to answer.

University is a place when you get the chance to make truckloads of friends in an instance. I made 1? Merely because he was grouped with me on several projects. I think I posted about him years back.

So, coming to the point that why I am not an acceptable friend. The reason: I use my own fucking brain. That's it.

Generally, in society, being friends means accepting and supporting your friend's views and arguments without giving them any thoughts. Being friends means to depend on each other. Being friends means to be ready to kick someone's ass because he kicked your friend's. Remember your best friend? How he never argued about your believes? I am none like that.

Here's what happened a couple of months back.

I had this neighbor named Farhan, he was my housemate's friend. He would come occasionally to hangout. I went with him few times too. We had fun watching movies and eating midnight dinners. Along the way we argued about a lot of things. He is a very religious person, but you won't believe from his appearance. Arguments, that were going healthy, suddenly turned sour. One fine day he tells me that he thought I was his friend but just because I argue, we couldn't be friends. I found it extremely funny and laughed my heads off. He never showed up again. His opinion: I should not think in friendship, I should only support.

I believe in a healthy friendship, you do not depend on each other. You hear, comprehend and tolerate each other's opinions. You be yourself. Your best friend is not the person who is ready to support you. Your best friend is the person who is ready to listen and understand you. That is the sincerest form of honesty. If someone is ready to support my opinion without understanding it, I would find it offensive.

P.S: I have this weird sense of humor too. So, chances are next to zero.